01 :: Love Hurdles
One of my hurdlers this year has a lot of potential … but her confidence level is really really low. I often catch her standing there on the track for minutes, totally immobilized by fear and overwhelmed by distractions. I wouldn’t be surprised if she has a history of falling … a lot of memories of risks that just didn’t turn out very well or times when others let her down.
I’m the same way with love … I think that I’ll eventually be pretty good at it, but I’m simply terrible at getting over that first hurdle. I don’t really know how to discern what’s real and what’s not … to figure out who’s worth chasing. And when I do seem to get that right, I always end up falling flat on my face. I’m a total loser … never in my life have the time, place, and person lined up well.
And I wonder if my repeated tumbles have left me immobilized too. 
May 1st, 2008 at 9:59 am EST
you’re not alone in waiting for everything to line up.
i think may will be pretty interesting around here.
May 1st, 2008 at 2:47 pm EST
Not having the right time, place and person line up doesn’t make you a total loser. At least I hope it doesn’t, because then I would be a total loser too
I thought I’d stop lurking and start posting comments, kudos on the substance.
Bethany
May 1st, 2008 at 3:19 pm EST
http://enjoythescenery.blogspot.com/
May 1st, 2008 at 3:34 pm EST
You’re right, Bethany, that doesn’t make me a loser … but losing repeatedly does.
May 1st, 2008 at 5:21 pm EST
We may have to start differentiating between Bethanys now! Crazy!!
May 2nd, 2008 at 1:54 pm EST
How many times was it they say Einstein tried to invent the lightbulb again??
And Lincoln was a TOTAL loser until that one time when he won the presidency…
May 2nd, 2008 at 1:57 pm EST
maybe Lincoln didn’t lose as much as I thought…but you get my point there.
May 2nd, 2008 at 2:18 pm EST
Loser - one who has failed.
Now you can look at it like you’ve failed
or that you have succeeded in not marrying those who in the end probably wouldn’t have been the best match. So I agree with Sarah’s comments - watch Meet the Robinsons or Chicken Little if only for their message of pursuit. Now I recognize that this isn’t the easiest thing to hear when at this mental state - but man, advice is a lot easier to type than empathy (that really needs to be in person). I love you and I know that some day the females of the world will figure out they should too.
May 2nd, 2008 at 2:33 pm EST
I think, Lance, that once you find that right person…you will look back to all of those past falls and realize that they were not losses at all. I mean…how would you figure out who is worth chasing if you had never suffered a failure in the “chase” department. You’ll appreciate it someday…the failures (which don’t make you a loser at all by the way…they just make you that more sure of the actual “right” person…once she comes along)
That’s all for now.
May 2nd, 2008 at 7:59 pm EST
I think it was Edison who invented the lightbulb…
May 4th, 2008 at 7:21 pm EST
too bad when people ARE interested - you don’t give them the time of day.
May 4th, 2008 at 8:16 pm EST
Wow, Anonymous … you’re implying that I both knew about your (or your friend’s) interest and also chose to be non-communicative about it. I’m a bit surprised and saddened to hear that … sounds like I screwed up.
I’d love to clear the air … if you want, drop me a line (anonymously or not) at
or 728-1468.
June 2nd, 2008 at 12:44 am EST
No, seriously … I don’t like leaving this unresolved, Anonymous. Pretty please?